we rarely, if ever, separate a person from his or her behavior. Think about it; culturally we define people whether they are our friends, children, family members, neighbors, co-workers or a person we’re totally unfamiliar with …. we observe, interpret and attach a label i.e. bad, bossy, violent, abusive, great, obnoxious, rude and so on. In fact, our identity becomes SO enmeshed with these adjectives that to extricate ourselves from them is not unlike separating Siamese twins … painful, if not, fatal