When I first started writing as the voice for Circe on In the Pantheon, I learned rather quickly the concept of show don’t tell. When we’re in the telling mode, we’re essentially directing the readers / listeners point of view; such as: this is what I want you to see. When we show, on the other hand, we’re creating images and allowing their mind to wander in a direction that makes sense to the them.

‘Let go’ … although a common phrase … is one that gets to you!

Often times, letting go is equaled to surrender; however, with time, I’ve come to see it as SO much more than that. At this point, to let go is to accept ..

When we accept everything that comes our way, we are receiving all of life. Which means as we let go, we allow ourselves to go through and fully experience each moment rather than avoid them as if they were out to get us.

Yet before we can live into the concept of letting go, it’s a good idea to understand why we struggle to hand over the need to control.

Therefore, I ask:

1. what is the benefit to micromanaging / managing every aspect of life?

2. what is it costing you to micromanage / manage every aspect of life?

Take your time with this exercise as it will provide you with amazing insight into how you operate and why!

At the same time, I invite you to be easy with yourself. Humans are conditioned to think we are at the effect of life. When we look at it this way, we believe life happens to us …. therefore, the need to control becomes both emphasized and enforced.

Nothing could be further from the truth!

While we undoubtedly encounter the happenings of life, we’re not victims unless we choose to allow that belief to be real. The truth is we have more influence on the way we experience the outcomes of our actions as anyone outside of us. This is leadership!

Still having a difficult time wrapping your head around this OR believe you’ve accepted as much as you possibly can because nothing is 100% acceptable?

I get it. Like you, I’ve had situations that I wished had never happened, from my kids being hurt, to being robbed and diagnosed with cancer! To say moments like these were hard is an understatement. At the time, they were excruciating because I was at a loss … metaphorically as well as literally.

Yet, I didn’t like feeling like a victim and as it’s said, the only way out is in. So, as the Stoic philosophy suggests, I leaned into being a victim. I wholeheartedly accepted it and quickly discovered the symbolic loss represented my disappointment in myself for not being more fluid, open, attentive or intentional with my actions.

My need to control circumstances led to me feeling like I was losing control which drove me to tighten the grip I had on the figurative reigns of life.

Control is a vicious cycle…

As we look around nature, we are gifted with aromas, touched by breezes as the leaves rustle with a response. The more time we take to connect with the trees, plants and flowers, we begin to notice the way some plants survive in the shade cast by the ones soaking up the sun. Of course, we can’t forget about the flowers. Their story is just as informative when we allow their messages to take shape in our mind. You see, nature does not direct or demand that we do anything a certain way. The world is ours to experience and interpret as it makes sense to us.

Nature doesn’t tell us how to think, speak or act. It shows us how to live in balance within our own unique nature.

This is the BIGGEST change I’ve made in my practice with essential oils. I went from treating symptoms to factoring in the entire system. I shifted from controlling one aspect of the body to augmenting the subtle nuances that typically go unsupported in conventional medicine. The result was a massive shift from pro-inflammatory reactions to anti-inflammatory responses.

I let go of the belief that I had to control the body in order for it to be well. And this is something I can teach you too!

With that said, not sure about what I’ve said or what I’m about .. you have several ways to contact me and get additional support

1. You can DM me on Instagram with a general question about essential oils

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You can do one or all three .. it’s up to you! Just know my mission is to bridge the gap between mediocre (it’ll do kind of attitude) to feeling remarkably healthy